Every day I look in the mirror wondering if my body looks good enough. Should I start a diet? Should I go to the gym more? These are all the thoughts that run through my head.
Even though I am very thankful for the body Allah has given me, sometimes I just don’t feel like myself. I know looking pretty isn’t everything but getting hurt by people you know hurts more than anything. People’s perceptions way heavily on the topic of body image. There are some days were there is light and hope and there are other days that are a bit negative.
To me, my body image is how I think others perceive me. If they call me pretty, I feel so happy and filled with joy. But when others call me ugly or fat that really puts me down. The thing is I don’t understand why people like to put down other people. Empowering others should become something everyone in this day and age should get used to doing daily. It would really be amazing if someone just commented me, nothing too special, just a simple “you look beautiful today, just to let you know”. Truthfully, it isn’t just about commenting about your looks. It is about the actions you take when you are around people. The words you use and how you use them can also affect how other people identify you.
Body image is important because how we define ourselves has an impact on every aspect of our lives, including our emotional and physical wellbeing, how we care about ourselves, and how we communicate with and relate to others. An individual with a positive body image sees their body and appearance objectively and without distortion.
When a person is being shamed for their body image, it isn’t just about being shamed for being fat it is also about being shamed for being skinny. Skinny shaming hurts as much as fat shaming does. People who are skinny can’t help it, so making fun of them harms their self-esteem. Although skinny shaming is not as well heard it is just as important. It should be prioritized and should be heard by the voices of these people. Skinny shaming and fat shaming should not be normalized.
“You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and fearing yourself. Your body is perfect.”
Everyone on social media has a such a perfect body, but ME I feel like I can never find any clothes that fit. I wonder what it would be like if I had a body like theirs. Maybe then I could wear all the clothes I dream of wearing. Honestly, I think social media is fake even though I wish I had their body I know everything on there is just way too fake. Social media can make you think wrongly of yourself; you always seem to compare and idealise yourself to what you think the standards are but let’s be honest everyone is beautiful because of there IMPERFECTIONS. Without all those imperfections you wouldn’t be YOU. You should recognise and appreciate your own beauty and you need to realise that none in this world is 100% flawless. Even if you have those insecurities about your body don’t rely on others to boost your confidence you should have confidence in yourself, because no two people in this world are the same.
The way you look should not be how others portray you as a person. You’re the only person that should love yourself. Other people’s opinions should not impact the way you think about yourself. You are perfect just the way you are. Any type of body shaming is not OK.
The perfect body by Layla Farache